I took one last gander to make sure I didn’t forget anything. All of my knickknacks, clothes, and books lay packed away in boxes marked “college.” These boxes sat in the back of the running car in the driveway. I heard a beep and knew I delayed too long.
As I started to leave, I took one last look at my childhood bedroom – and started to cry. I knew the moment I left the room I would never be the same again.
The Expected vs The Unexpected
Life is full of experiences, some expected and some not. When the unexpected hit us – like the death of a family member or the sudden loss of a job – we aren’t prepared. We deal with the aftermath the best we can.
But what about expected life changing moments? You know, the big moments we expect and can prepare for: like going to college, getting married, or expecting the birth of a child. How do we deal with those?
The moments we can anticipate are those we fear the most. These big moments stand out because we know what lies on the other side. We know that once these moments pass, we will never be the same again.
On the verge of change, we tremble. On facing the inevitable, we hesitate.
Erica and I talk a lot about what we are getting ourselves into with this baby. A lot of folks tell us, “Your life will never be the same again.”
But we look at it differently. Every moment, every action we take leads us to becoming a new person. Sometimes you can anticipate the big moments, sometimes not, but at the end of the day you are a completely different person than when you woke up.
So why worry?
As I sit at my desk and type away, I am aware that in a few hours or a few days I will become a dad. I will sleep less. I will worry more. I will tell corny dad jokes. My life is going to change.
And yet, I’m calm, because I know my life is fluid and not static.
My life is not a book segmented into many chapters, one leading to the next. No, my life (and yours) is a song. A song of notes flowing after one another in sequential beats, some fast, some slow – some high, some low. This song constantly changes to form a delightful melody.
When I look at life this way, I’m comforted. All I need to do is listen for the next beat.
How do you face the “verge of change?” Please share in the comments below.