Today’s Problem – Phone Calls
Phone calls with other human beings are most certainly one of my greatest fears. Definitely cracks the top ten. Might sound a bit silly, but I simply cannot handle them. It’s hard enough to communicate with other persons face to face. Why would I want to expose myself to silent judgement by a person on the other end of a phone call? If I’m going to be judged, might as well be to my face. In that scenario, at least I can make a scene and storm out of the room in epic fashion. All a phone call gives me is the ability to hang up on the silent judger. Talk about anti-climactic.
The period of time leading right up to the phone call is the worst part of it for me. The anxiety of wanting to get the phone call over with destroys any sense of calmness that I might have had before I dialed the number I’m trying to reach. This anxiety usually worsens with each ring. Most of the time I just pray that the person on the other end won’t answer. I don’t really wan’t them to pick up. I’m not trying to be a hero.(I actually mentioned this anxiety in my Ordering Anxiety post for the Millennial Problems series. Chalk that up as a successful callback!).
Solving The Problem
Ok so perhaps a fear of phone calls is a bit irrational at times. They can be useful for solving many problems, and talking to loved ones. So they have the ability to do some good. But hey, everyone has to have some irrational fears. Besides, I have plenty of legitimate fears that offset this potentially irrational one. For example, my fears of public speaking, heights, and butterflies. No, I’m not kidding about the butterflies thing. Seriously. Butterflies are terrifying creatures. They always go directly for the face. Cruel menaces.
So yeah back to the phone calls problem… Here are some possible solutions:
- Practice by calling friends and family: Maybe you can ease some of the tension from phone calls if you practice making them enough. Friends and family can be helpful in this situation. Since they already judge you and make fun out of you, you won’t have to worry about those being parts of the equation. WE TALKING ABOUT PRACTICE!
- Stick to text: Texting and impersonal means of communication are part of my own personal comfort zone. Non-verbal communication is just easier. Send emails, texts, snail mail; there are just so many options!
- Voicemail: I don’t actually have to talk to the person, but I can still get my point across? Heck yes, sign me up! Of course in this case the person would have to end up not answering the phone. If they do, you’d have to hang up immediately to avoid embarrassment. In which case, you may appear to be a crazy person.
Also terrified of phone calls? Have a Millennial Problem of your own? Please do share!